We’re getting ready to head out and make the drive to see family and friends we don’t always see. To tell them we’ve missed them and eat, talk, laugh and marvel at all the new babies. We’re reminded this week to be thankful for our blessings.


For me Thanksgiving has been harder than Christmas. When it’s a holiday all focused on silver lining and glass is half full. How can I be thankful when my child died? It’s a question that I’ve really struggled with. I’m thankful to have Logan’s sister, but it’s not him. He’s still missing.


I’m thankful he’s not in pain anymore. I’m thankful I’m 1 day closer to seeing him again. It’s not something you normally go around and say at the thanksgiving table though.


We really suck at this whole grief thing as a society. We want to hear how people pull themselves from these tragedies and save thousands of others and never feel anymore pain. Grief doesn’t really make for good tv drama. When you have the happiest day and then cry later because someone missed the happiness.


Missing someone isn’t about how long it’s been since you’ve seen them or the amount of time since you’ve talked. It’s about that moment you were doing something wishing they were there too.

Published by Beyondthewillows

I'm a wife, mother to two incredible children. One on Earth and one in heaven.

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